Top five wedding tips

Planning a wedding can be overwhelming. Many couples ask me, "What is a humanist wedding"? A humanist wedding is a non-religious ceremony all about you as a couple. It's conducted by a trained humanist celebrant who takes the time to write and deliver a meaningful ceremony just for you.
Your ceremony can be as traditional or non-traditional, formal or informal as you like. It can include singing, pets, traditions, and anything else that makes it feel right for you. Once you realise that you can craft your ceremony to be as unique as you are, the choices can be quite vast.
My top five popular ideas give a starting point to consider when creating your wedding ceremony.
1. Include personalised vows:
Crafting personal vows is an important part of a humanist wedding. It allows you to express your feelings and commitments to each other. To start writing your vows, think about your relationship journey, the qualities you admire in your partner, and the promises you want to make for your future together. Personalised vows allow you to share your love story with your guests, creating a special moment during the ceremony. Consider including anecdotes, inside jokes, or meaningful references that show your connection. Ensure your vows resonate with both of you and strike a balance between sincerity and celebration.
2. Choose a meaningful location.
When planning a humanist wedding, choose a location meaningful to you as a couple. It can be indoors or outdoors, such as a park, scenic venue, or community space. Ensure the venue is inclusive and accessible for all guests. Tailor the ceremony to harmonise with the surroundings for a wonderful experience. Many weddings I officiate take place in my woodland venue, perfect for people who love the outdoors and Lord of The Rings fans!
3. Involve your family and friends:
Humanist weddings celebrate two individuals coming together and committing to each other in front of their wider circle of family and friends. Involving loved ones in your ceremony is a beautiful way to celebrate your wider community. You can invite your guests to participate by sharing readings, poems, or anecdotes that hold significance for them about you as a couple, playing a musical instrument, or taking part in a symbolic gesture such as traditional handfastings. Their involvement adds a personal touch and reinforces the support surrounding your union. Collaborating with your loved ones will contribute to your wedding ceremony's warmth and inclusivity.
4. A Thoughtful Wedding Ceremony Script: collaborate with a Humanist Ceremonies Celebrant
Celebrants trained and accredited by Humanists UK (like myself!) have expertise in creating personalised and meaningful ceremonies that reflect your values. Creating the script involves chats, conversations and sometimes deep discussions between you and the celebrant to understand your personal journey, what matters to you, and how you envision your wedding day. The celebrant then incorporates these elements into a ceremony script that tells your love story and matches the ceremony's style. Their storytelling skills ensure the ceremony is captivating and resonates with you and your guests. Through this collaborative process, the script becomes a sincere and genuine expression of your love, making your wedding day unforgettable for you and everyone in attendance.
5. Include wedding customs
Wedding customs, such as a handfasting ceremony or lighting a candle, can be powerful expressions of love and commitment in a romantic humanist wedding. When choosing these customs, consider elements that reflect your unique journey and resonate with you and your partner. The goal is to create a representation of your love and commitment that feels genuine and comfortable.
Creating your wedding ceremony might be overwhelming at first. Those initial feelings will become excitement after a few discussions with your celebrant. As a celebrant, I love chatting with guests after a wedding ceremony I have just conducted, and it's always heartwarming to hear them say, "Their ceremony was so them!"
If you'd like to find out more information, please feel free to contact me. We can arrange in-person meetings, or I can easily set up a Zoom chat.




